Things can get better, and you can feel better. I would love to be a part of your journey towards a more fulfilling life.
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Long Beach, CA
Trauma isn't defined by what happens to you. Trauma happens when we're not able to make sense of what happened and it continues to impact us in the present. With EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitazation and Reprocessing), you are able to "digest" the traumatic events and memories, so that it can take a more appropriate place in your mind and in your life, the past. This involves using eye movements to activate both sides of the brain so they can work together to help this process along.
This may sound crazy, but we all have different parts of ourselves. Some of us may be aware of them, some of us aren't. But they're there and many of us have parts that are working very hard to help us function and not experience anything that may trigger our pain. These parts play significant roles in our lives, and could also be responsible for some problematic behaviors we have. All of our parts are only trying to help, and when they can let go of the pain, we can live more comfortably.
We are social creatures and the need for healthy, loving, and secure relationships is just as necessary as the need for food and shelter. This need changes over the course of our lives, but does not go away. Our earliest relationships with our caregiver(s) usually set the stage for our beliefs about the kind of love we deserve, and the kind of love we seek out. This can have a tremendous impact on the quality of our lives and how we relate to others (especially our romantic partners.)