All humans have some difficulty coping with change. This can range from child/youth developmental issues to births, deaths, breakups, relationship stages and conflicts. Life transitions can not only affect how well we adapt to different needs and circumstances, but also trigger existential crises including questioning who we are and our purpose in life. I particularly enjoy working with people who want to go deeper, to explore their spirituality or life meaning.
There are various fictions floating around about what it takes to be a perfect family. However, the emphasis on perfect is destructive, because it’s an impossible goal. The point is more to have a loving, well-functioning family where kids are cherished and supported to become thriving, fulfilled adults who themselves know how to have good (not perfect) relationships. This always requires constant adaptation and tinkering. I love working with motivated families!
In a chaotic world, it's normal to feel anxious, A certain amount of anxiety, held in check, can push us to do things we thought we couldn't. Beyond that, give anxiety an inch and it can take over our lives. Dealing with my own lifelong anxiety has pushed me to learn mindfulness skills and rely on my spiritual practice, in order to return to the present rather than focusing on the future or past. I work t o encourage anxious clients to find their own ways of doing this.
Loss is a normal part of life, and the grief that accompanies it can be transformational. People often fear and try to escape their grief because it's so painful, yet allowing ourselves to experience it with love can break our hearts wide open, making us more appreciative and compassionate human beings. I was trained as a grief counselor in my graduate school years, and have always treasured the humbling experiences of seeing people become more alive through navigating their grief.
In depth (AKA psychodynamic) therapy, we work to uncover the unconscious patterns and beliefs that contribute to the outer symptoms and struggles that often manifest as anxiety, depression, relationship challenges, burnout, and more. This isn't a quick fix, yet I generally find that my clients benefit more quickly from this than they often expect. Whatever is bringing you to therapy right now, if we want to make it stop, we have to learn why it's happening.
Things may seem "fine," yet you may be questioning whether your partnership at present is living up to the promise you originally found in it, whether it's helping you live the life you really want. I focus on helping couples with basically solid relationships find deeper joy and connection by helping them attune more deeply to themselves and one another.