Adela Stone

I am part of the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling group. I help neurodiverse couples create a common shared understanding. If you have a common language you can define shared values and shared expectations. I'm aware of the fact that neurology matters and I recognize that in the case of a ND couple, it is important to view a partnership through this lens as opposed to focusing only on external conflicts.

With my guidance, you can learn to talk to each other about intimacy in a way that makes you both feel safe, including the way to express your needs, and the appropriate way to react to your partner's requests. There is a complexity of inner emotions, desires and vulnerability at play here, all of which need to be tapped into in order to get to the root of the intimacy issues. Then, you can connect deeper as a couple.

I can help you heal attachment wounds and guide you forward in your relationship. I will aim at making you a more emotionally intelligent couple who is better able to understand, honor and respect each other and the union. Better communication alone will not be enough. Understanding the core difference that is causing the conflict between you and learning how to live with it in respectful and honorable ways is necessary.

This approach comes from a place of curiosity and focuses on your best hopes for therapy. I pose questions that serve as invitations. Even if you don't answer out loud, some helpful shift has occurred within you because of the question I asked. I find this approach helpful with more concrete thinking couples. You can expect me to ask about what was right between you in the beginning and what your life was like before or without the problem. We work on creating your preferred future.

IFS views multiplicity of mind as normal. You have different parts and so does your partner. You also have Self, an inner wisdom. The parts meeting adds to the complexity of inner emotions, desires and vulnerability, all of which need to be tapped into in order to facilitate deep connectedness. It is important to address the parts that are triggered by their issues. Those parts are trying to protect us from hurt and trauma. The angry part of you can turn into a resource for change.

IFS views multiplicity of mind as normal. You have different parts and so does your partner. You also have Self, an inner wisdom. Partners' parts meeting adds to the complexity of inner emotions, desires and vulnerability, all of which need to be tapped into in order to facilitate deep connectedness. It is important to address the parts that are triggered by their issues. Those parts are trying to protect us from hurt and trauma. The angry part of you can turn into a resource for change.

Using EFT, we can deepen the attachment and bonding between you and your sweetie(s). Your emotional functioning will improve. I will help you de-escalate the negative cycle you are stuck in, and change interaction patterns. Your interpersonal understanding will also get much better: you will be more aware of yours and your partner's needs. This leads to more empathy, less anger and less defensiveness. Stronger bonds will serve as a buffer against whatever stress will come your way.

Using EFT, we can deepen the attachment and bonding between you and your sweetie(s). Your emotional functioning will improve. I will help you de-escalate the negative cycle you are stuck in, and change interaction patterns. Your interpersonal understanding will also get much better: you will be more aware of yours and your partner's needs. This will lead to more empathy, less anger and less defensiveness. Stronger bonds will serve as a buffer against whatever stress comes your way.