Jordan Wolfe (She/They)

If you have been through something huge and it has taken over your life: let's talk about how to get you where you want to be. I know what it's like to feel the ground fall out from under you. I also know what it's like to think something is normal, just to find out later how horrible it really was. I never force clients to talk about things until they are ready, but I'll support your and (gently) push you to help you move forward.

Hopeless, numb, empty, tired, angry, "fine". If you find yourself experiencing most of these things, then I want to work with you. Depression doesn't always hit you like a ton of bricks. Sometimes it's a slow change in temperature until you realize you're freezing. Feeling depressed is a normal human experience, but when you can't shake it, that's when it's an issue. Let's figure out how to pull the wet blanket off of you, or if you need someone to sit in it with you. I got you.

I get it; wanting to die is scary and admitting you want to die is even scarier. I want you to know, I'm not scared to talk about it. I believe most people know what it's like to not want to wake up or not want to exist anymore. I'm more suspicious of people who say they have never felt that way. Feeling suicidal makes sense to me for a lot of reason, AND I want to help you turn the volume down on those ideas. Let's talk about options before you go with the most permanent one on the table.

Trauma Systems Therapy, Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Neurosequential Model. All of these give us a framework for how trauma impacts us physically, mentally, and emotionally. They also provide interventions to address Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn, and Flop. This can be integrated with other interventions (such as IFS) to address all levels of impact in your system.

CBT is therapy bread and butter. The idea of feelings leading to thoughts leading to actions is a model that can be applied to any and all situations in life. It also offers a framework that is adaptable to pairing with other interventions and modalities.

I have utilized DBT first as a client and now as a clinician. DBT offers specific skills and behaviors rather than theoretical models of approaching behaviors and emotions. DBT is the sister of CBT and there is frequent overlap when discussing intervention. DBT also pairs well with trauma work which is why I utilize a combination of approaches.

Think of the movie Inside Out. Now, imagine Riley being able to talk to her emotions throughout the movie. That's a very simple way to think about IFS. If you've ever said "a part of me feels.... but another part of me thinks....." that's an even more accurate way to view IFS. It's all about building a relationship with ourself, and healing through that internal relationship.

I wish I could change this to "self-compassion". Every challenge we experience, I would argue, can come right back to how we were taught to feel about ourselves in childhood. Attachment wounds, trauma, mental illness etc. all have deep seeded roots in our sense of self. True healing comes from learning to love the parts of yourself that you've been taught to exile. Phrases like "inner child", "reparenting", "shadow work", all fall under this category. This is the deepest work you will do!