Services
About My Clients
Most of my clients are seeking relationship therapy. I see couples in all stages of relationship, including premarital counseling. Most of my clients love and respect their partners/spouses but miss the times when they felt truly seen and known. They want to change ingrained patterns that inhibit intimacy and cause resentment. They are working to recalibrate after a big life transition. A lot of my clients are premarital, LGBTQIA+, have young children, or are also in the helping field.
My Background and Approach
A lot of my early training was in experiential and integrative trauma therapy. I worked mostly with individuals until I saw the way doing the same kind of work in the context of a relationship could be just as, if not more, healing. My understanding of how neurobiology and attachment intersect means that sessions are more than just psychoeducation and skill-building. People won't use skills if their nervous systems aren't regulated, and sessions are about building connection through the creation of embodied safety. When partners feel safe with one another, trust expands, and when partners trust one another, they're more apt to collaborate, cooperate, desire repair, and put their relationship above their individual desires. Sessions are creative, dynamic, and led by the clients' needs and goals. My training includes Relational Life Therapy, Experiential & Psychodramatic Therapy, and The Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy.
My Personal Beliefs and Interests
I believe that every human deserves to feel safe, seen, and to belong to a community. That we all have an immutable Self that is curious, compassionate, and desires connection. That all "maladaptive" coping skills were formed for our survival. I believe that good therapy can be life changing because good therapy has changed my life. I believe that every family can create its own blueprint for healthy functioning, despite culture's rules and judgements. My wife and I live and raise our three children with their biological father, and building our world without a cultural template has proven to me that health and happiness can exist in any context as long as there is honesty, compassion, and courage. I watch my clients live into those things every day, which further proves that bravely walking into the mess bears the fruit of joy, connection, and delight. There are few things more sacred than bearing witness to one another and saying "I see the Self of you. And you are beloved."