Therapy is one tool to help us as we work toward building a better world.
Marriage & Family Therapist in Pennsylvania
Supervised by Brandy DeFiglio, LMFT
The early years in which we are developing physically and emotionally are some of the most important years of our life. Because we usually spend this time with our families, family systems have a big effect on our future lives. Family systems work can happen with individual people processing their family of origin, with people in relationships with different family histories which are influencing their present actions, and with families who come to therapy together.
Individual people and communities of all sizes understand their identity and purpose via the stories they tell. Narrative theory is about unpacking the stories we tell about ourselves and where they come from, societal stories, family stories, community stories. It's about actively choosing what stories we want to tell in the future. My practice of narrative therapy is informed by the work of Black feminists like The Combahee River Collective, Octavia Butler, and Toni Morrison.
My consent based approach is very applicable in addressing relationship based issues, and this has certainly been an important part of my work with clients in the past. In addition, this is something I have personal experience with as a Relationship Anarchist. In my experience, navigating a practice of love with multiple people taking into account attachment histories is sometimes very challenging but can also be very rewarding.
Trauma doesn't come from nowhere. It is tied to family, community, and national history. It is connected to the long and many faceted systemic oppression that causes so much trauma. For me, most trauma is connected to the intergenerational. This is why in my work with clients I connect present experiences of symptoms related to trauma to past relationships, family history, community history, and more.
I have extensive experience working with people of all ages on gender identity related issues. At a previous job this was a particular focus in working with transgender people - mostly young people - regarding identity and the possibility of transition. This is also something I have personal experience with navigating in my own life. I know that identity is complex, layered, and always changing. This is why I hope to provide a supportive space for you in which you can navigate this your way.
A lot of the time, people might feel like they can't point to any "real trauma" yet they experience symptoms in line with trauma. Trauma is not just limited to one event: it often comes from our experiences embedded in our environments. This means that there is no simple beginning, middle, and end to our trauma stories. They're complex and layered. Trauma therapy for me is about honoring the complexity, the messiness, the grief of it all. It is central to the work that I do.